Gini : Just Being Me

Birthday

2009-11-19T21:54:00.000-08:00

Yeah my birthday is just around the corner.. and its telling me that im getting old.. (hmm *sigh*). The good things about birthday is we get birthday wishes and presents from friends ( wah….*smilling*) ...
My birthday wish:.hmmmm...i wish that god will guide me and give me the strength to do the right things and hope that all my dreams will came true and will be granted soon.

Lie

2009-09-23T18:29:00.000-07:00

LIE? Why these words exist? ... Why do we lie? Why do we find the need to lie? …..

I hated it if someone lied to me and the worst thing is I eventually know the truth and yet they still lied…I started not to believe if any of my friend lied including our love ones… hahahahah

Here I would like to shares what Msgr Primus said in one of his sermon during Sunday mass… he said “If we start lie in our early age... we will continue doing it ...and again...again …forever and there will be no ending...it will never stop... his sermon is very good that day till one old lady who are sitting in the front pews cried… Msgrs Primus then said to this old lady … “ Bah Inai kada nodi I’iaid ( Aunty stop crying)…I don’t know why the old lady cried, or maybe she have a story behind it and definitely it about LIE..

Opinion: Single vs. Married -- Who Really Lives Longer?

2009-09-08T23:47:00.000-07:00

Opinion: Single vs. Married -- Who Really Lives Longer? By Bella DePaulo

"Attention, single people: stay single and die!" Headlines around the nation trumpeted this "finding," based on a study that appeared in the September 2006 issue of the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health. The articles claimed that single people simply will not live as long as married people, or even divorced or widowed people. Reading the original research report, I discovered that the actual findings looked nothing like the publicized ones.

In fact, I've spent the last few years researching claims that people who dare to stay single will be doomed to lives that are nasty, brutish, and short. I always read the original research, and I rarely find that the results are as extreme as the reporting. Single people seem to be fair game these days, the targets of inaccurate media reports that promote hurtful stereotypes.

Good science can be the antidote to bad stereotypes. Here is the truth about the latest study.

The recent longevity study addressed this question: In a sample of Americans 19 and older, who was most likely to die between 1989 and 1997? Media stories reported the following: Compared to people who were married, divorced people were 27% more likely to die, widowed people were 39% more likely, and people who had always been single were 58% more likely. Those sound like meaningful differences among the varieties of unmarried people. They are not. The article in the epidemiology journal concedes that the differences are not statistically significant.

The study reported death rates from different causes, and one of those results truly was striking. People who were single had a 499% greater risk of death from infectious diseases than people who were married. That was for men and women of all ages. The finding was even more stunning for ever-single men between the ages of 19 and 44: They were 908% more likely to die of infectious diseases between 1989 and 1997 than were those who were married. What do you think is the more plausible explanation for this finding -- that many men were dying because they stayed single or because they had AIDS?

If you are still not sure, consider this. Staying single did not bode ill for the men who had already made it to age 65 by 1989. They were no more likely to die by 1997 (regardless of the cause) than were the men who were married.

The 499% greater risk of death from infectious diseases for all ever-single adults (men and women) got averaged in with the death rates from all other causes to produce the widely touted "finding" of the early demise of people who stay single.

Infectious diseases, though, only accounted for about 3% of all deaths in the study. Cardiovascular disease was the biggest killer, but people who had always been single were no more likely to die from it than were people who had been widowed. Cancer was the second most deadly disease; single people were no more likely than anyone to die from it. (If I were to ignore statistical significance, I would say that they were less likely than anyone, including married people, to die from cancer.)

So far, then, here's what the study really did find. In the eight-year period, there were no meaningful differences in the death rates of Americans who were divorced, widowed, or had always been single. The people who were married in 1989 did have a slightly greater chance of making it to 1997, in part because so few of them died of infectious diseases.

But would those married people really end up living the long lives that the headlines suggested? The study ended in 1997, but their lives did not. Going forward, a sizable number of them would divorce. Then their death rate would be the same as that of the other divorced people. What about the married people who never do divorce? Setting aside those who die at the same instant as their spouse, half will become widowed. Then they, too, will have the about same odds of dying early as the other unmarried people. Getting married, then, does not seem to be the key to living a long life.

Studies that excerpt just a slice of people's lives are not the best barometers of the likely length of those lives. More convincing evidence comes from investigations that follow people throughout the course of their lives. Probably the longest-running examination of longevity is the Terman Life-Cycle Study that began in 1921. It was a relatively small study, with 1,528 select eleven-year olds at the outset. That said, the results are noteworthy. Two groups were tied for first place in the longevity sweepstakes. One was composed of people who were consistently married. Did they live longer because they got married? No. People who got married and then divorced did not live as long, regardless of whether they remarried. Does that mean you need to get married and stay married to have the best chances of living a long life?

Time to introduce the other group who lived the longest: People who stayed single for life.

Bella DePaulo (Ph.D., Harvard) is a Visiting Professor of Psychology at the University of California, Santa Barbara. Bella is a contributor to the Huffington Post, and her op-ed essays have appeared in papers such as The New York Times and Newsday.
http://www.unmarried.org/opinion-single-vs.-married-who-really-lives-longer.html

facts of life

2009-09-02T17:32:00.000-07:00

In our lives, we suffer a lot.. We walk through on several trials, that causes us to give up. Sometimes we think life is so unfair because of the hindrance we've been through. We struggle a lot to survive, but when things went wrong and everything is gone, we find someone to blame on and ask "why me?"..But things are just not constant, things may come and go, if not today, tommorrow, or never. But we need to value things that comes along our way, looking back the past may serve as our guidance to a new and better path forward..

For me, I have to tell myself not to be sad all the times ..because i know that I will never be alone ..why? God is near me to cheer me up... :)

Letting go.....hmmmm.........

2009-08-26T18:43:00.001-07:00

There are some things in life that don't go the way you want them to
or the way you think they should, but you can't dwell on these because
you'll miss out on other opportunities. Don't give up one something just
because you don't think things will work, you won't know unless you
give it a try. But don't hold onto something that left a long time ago,
because sooner or later you'll realize some things just aren't meant to be.

Charity

2009-08-26T16:21:00.000-07:00

“It is better to give then to receive” as stated in Acts 20:35, emphasized on the importance of giving towards people who are in need. One of the many ways is through charity. Charity means donation or giving away to others in terms of material things, act and monetary. Although there are many organizations and groups doing this charity work, there are still rooms to lend a helping hand for these unfortunate people.

The NGK group which consists of professional from the different departments in the State Government of Sabah is proposing a charity mission to St Maria Goretti Binaong Keningau.

St Maria Goretti Hostel for girls was built on a 2 acres plus land at Kg. Binaong, Keningau, situated along the Tambunan – Keningau Highway Road, a short distance from the township of Keningau. It was built for poor rural students from the remote villages in and around Keningau town.

Many students from the rural areas of interior Sabah have to walk for miles and for hours to reach the school in Keningau town. This has prevented many from performing well in their studies. These students from the remote areas could not afford to rent accommodation in town. The plight of these students was brought to the attention of the Bishop of Keningau – Bishop Cornellius Piong, who was very concerned about their desperate needs particularly the girl students.

The hostel is managed by the Franciscan Sisters as a non-profit charitable organisation. They are non-government aided and for the daily upkeep and maintenance of the hostel, they solely depended on the little fees collected from the students and from generous benefactors. Currently, they are 73 students to the maximum aged from 13 to 19. These girls left their home and beloved families to pursue their academic studies in the various schools in town.

OBJECTIVES OF THE PROGRAMME

- To help the church by giving and helping the children;
- To gain knowledge, understanding and awareness on the importance of charity giving; and
- To foster networking and unity among members and the community through the programme

So friends... let us do support charity work

Loosing someone

2009-08-25T21:09:00.000-07:00

Loosing someone is very difficult no matter who we are lossing.. it can be our bf/gf, our family members, our pet etc…. I lose my mother last July this year. She passed away due to cardiac arrest….It was so sudden and and unexpected, as it was for me the shock can be overwhelming .She was admitted to QEH for at least two weeks. We didn’t expect she will be gone that soon…She passed away at 8.15 am on the 16 July 2009.

I missed my mum very much..everything is changed when she gone.. I can feel it ….but I told myself that I must be strong…I know, no matter what circumstances of loss, there is always sadness, heartache and emptiness…..but I have to be strong….Here how I cope with it…
• Accept my feelings : learn to respect the feeling as part of us
• Treasure our relationships: share our feelings with friends with whom we can laugh, cry and shares new experiences.
• Draw on faith for healing : GOD is forever with us
• Be patient to ourselves : give ourselves to move through grief at our own pace and in our individual way

Just started .....

2009-08-25T19:49:00.000-07:00

hey, well today i just got started on this website and i really think this site’ is really cool....so i guess this is a new beginning for me... hahahhaha.. few friends have been asking me to create my own blogg... so here i am...